Everybody has a story, or has heard a story, about the nightmare that unfolded when a loved one’s life was tragically interrupted or cut short by injury or illness. Such a time in any family is fraught with fear, chaos and indecision.
Decisions must be made in a highly emotional climate; family members’ opinions and wishes often differ. Critical decisions may have to be postponed until someone can rush over to the courthouse and stand before a judge, pleading for certain permissions. It’s a scenario that can be avoided with some thought and planning.
“We do both planning and cleanup,” said James Miskell, J.D., founder of the Estate Planning and Law Group of Georgia, James M. Miskell, P.C. “Believe me, what you want for your family is the planning.” Why? Quite simply, planning provides peace of mind for everyone. Miskell is passionate about the importance of having a plan in place, one that clearly outlines what happens to your assets during a period of temporary disability or one of death. It’s a topic no one wants to jump into as a family, but having such critical discussions spares everyone involved a lot of pain, disagreement and, in many cases, permanent emotional damage to a family. No one wants that, no matter how difficult the conversation.
“The two things that everyone needs in place on their 18th birthday are Power of Attorney and a Healthcare Directive,” said JoAnn Radtke, Client Services Coordinator for Miskell’s practice. With these two simple assurances in place, so much pain and confusion and outright mistakes can be avoided.
The absolute best way to approach the often difficult topic of estate planning in a family is to have open and honest discussions about, say, aging parents’ wishes. “It can be uncomfortable and as children get older, they don’t see their parents as often. It’s unlikely that the topic of conversation at the Thanksgiving table will be Mom and Dad’s wishes in the event of a tragic car accident or death,” Miskell said. Rather, the conversations should be planned and intentional. He even suggested some lead-ins that might make the discussion easier to approach. For example, a child might bring up a recent celebrity’s tragedy and the family “war” that ensued. Often, the example of a friend’s recent tragedy might be the catalyst for your own family’s conversation. The point is that you are the best person to make known your wishes in any event, for both your own health and for your assets.
Another important element of these discussions is for parents to share with their children where their important papers are, and where they may store valuables. These talks can, frankly, feel awkward. Children may feel as though they are behaving like vultures, circling Mom and Dad. Parents may feel that they are giving up their independence by having certain directives in place, or even by having these conversations with their children. But the reality, according to Miskell is that “Last time I checked, the mortality rate in the state of Georgia is 100 percent, meaning every family will be faced with these matters. Having a clear plan in place is the most loving thing you can do.”
The workshops, led by attorney Jim Miskell, provide an opportunity for you, and your financial adviser, to learn the answers to commonly asked estate planning questions about wills, trusts, Medicaid planning and other important topics.“We plan for and protect our kids when they’re little; estate planning is no different. It’s just one more expression of the fact that we love our families, that’s all,” said Miskell. And “estate planning,” while it may sound involved and therefore, expensive, for some families is simply having a will in place. For others, more specific directives and contingencies are required.
Miskell is so convinced of the necessity of estate planning that, not only are his valuable workshops offered at no charge, but anyone who has attended one of his workshops receives an initial consultation, also at no charge. “It’s that important that you understand the terminology and principles of estate planning; if you’ve been to one of my workshops, you’re that much ahead of the game,” he said, adding that there is no obligation to use his firm’s services after attending a workshop. He’s just that passionate about the value of education before entering into the planning phase. “The workshops remove both the anxiety and the procrastination because we help people understand the terminology. We help them understand specific scenarios not by throwing out a lot of legal terms, but by using real-life examples and creative visual aids,” Radtke said. In other words, education removes that all-too-familiar veil of mystery, intimidation and confusing “legal-ese” that are often the chief villains that cause procrastination.